The Essence of Advocating for the Boy Child

By: Kawthar Abdulmojeed  In a world inundated with societal expectations and norms, the concept of masculinity has long been rigid and unforgiving. Men are taught to be strong, stoic, and unyielding in the face of adversity. They are told to suppress their emotions, to “man up” even when they are hurting inside. However, this archetype…

Navigating Uncharted Waters: Advocacy and the Boy Child

By: Praise T. Oluwasina Dearest Gentle Reader, There is a saying that “Smooth seas do not make skillful sailors”, and neither is avoiding certain topics as a society builds a Better Man. Much like sailors navigating turbulent seas to refine their skills, young boys find themselves facing challenges seldom acknowledged or discussed. The boy child…

The Fate of the Boychild in the 21st Century

By: Abdulmojeed Kawthar Image Credit: Boys Without Borders In the 21st century, the fate of the boy child has undergone significant changes and challenges. While progress is being made in terms of gender equality and addressing gender stereotypes, there are still areas where boys face unique struggles. A boy might grow up in a bustling…

The International Day of the Boychild: The Boy, His Troubles, and Our Initiative

By: Habeeb Abdul Image credit: Boys Without Borders. This year, 2023, will mark the sixth year since the celebration of the Boy Child began. To individuals across sociocultural spheres, an International Day of the Boy Child may appear another cross-continental oddity. To others, its observation is a cause to sigh in deep relief. But this…

Na we dey run Streetz: The Boychild and the Street

By Olamilekan Mashika Image Credit: Jeff Ackley/Unsplash As a boy who grew up in Mushin, Lagos, I am probably used to the street than most people, since Mushin is, in fact, streets. On one side are boys of variety of age drinking, smoking and chatting generally about women, and on the other side are boys…

Boys’ Trybe in a Flash.

Last year, our major project was called Boys Trybe. Many saw the contents and wondered what it was about. Many, indeed, know what the project is about because we had explained what it would be about. Simply put, the idea of Boys Trybe came from the perspective of a community coming together in a round…

Boy Child Sexual Abuse: Fact or Myth?

Image Credit: Boys Without Borders/Ire Ajewole. Primarily, sexual abuse revolves around the use of force, threats, and lack of consent. It is the subjection of an individual to sexual activity to which they did not agree. It can also be referred to as molestation. The Cambridge English Dictionary defines sexual abuse as the act of…

Leadership and Gender: Society, Stereotypes and the Way Forward

By: Solomon Idowu Image Credit: Boys Without Borders/Ire Ajewole. As a boy or man, have you ever had situations where you are uncomfortable with a female being your leader? Or have you ever experienced scenarios where females are told to respect their male counterparts for the mere fact that they are male? Or that a…

Where Feminism Meets The Boy Child: The Humane Approach

By: Ìbùkúnolúwa Dàda Image Credit: UNESCO As a child, my mum treated us so well that I thought girls were saints and the holiest beings after angels. I even wanted to be one until a girl stole my money in primary school, followed by a series of other terrible things from the same sex (I…

Negative Masculine Ideals: Deprived Vulnerability in Boys and Men

By: Amifel Eribo. Image Credit: Unsplash/Bill Wegener Boys get a large percentage of the codes of conduct they follow regarding how to be a boy or a man from the experiences and instructions they garner from the men in their lives. Of course, this socialization or education of masculine ideals starts at a young age…

How Societal Pressure Affects the Boy Child and the Need to Act Now

By: Theophilus ‘Femi Alawonde. Image Credit: 123RF.com Some days ago, a video made the rounds on the Nigerian version of the internet. It was that of a girl – unseen to viewers – who made a show of comparing and contrasting two parking lots at a tertiary institution. The one, allotted to the students, the…

Debunking Myths and Stereotypes around the Boy Child

By: Abdulmojeed Kawthar and John Jolaoso. “Cry all you want; it’s not like I care!” “Oh no! Don’t cry. You know I don’t like seeing you cry. What exactly do you say you want?” These are usually the scenarios in my home as I have two older brothers. Although these two sentences portray different personalities…

Demystifying Sexual Abuse against Boys and Men

By: Oluwasegun Adegoke. Image Credit: OpenGlobalRights The recurring tales (disturbing, by the way), on sexual abuse or any form of sexual harassment over the years have always predominately featured females narrating the gruesome occurrence. This raises a few eyebrows if, and truly if, men are just monster, who cannot help but sexually abuse the opposite…

Peer Pressure and its often overlooked Insidious Nature.

By: Adefokun Jucal. Image Credit: Pinterest. The Insidious Nature of Peer Pressure. Peer pressure is a common topic of discussion. It has been the subject of many talks and seminars, so much that the average person has probably heard the term repeatedly, even if they don’t understand it. It plays an important role in the…

What Is Boy Child Advocacy: A Necessity or an Unnecessary Show?

By: Oluwasina Praise Image Credit: Ray’s Photography (For Boys Without Borders) Sometime in January this year, I had a conversation with a senior colleague who made me realize that the world, as it is, is unfair towards the female gender, hence the existence of a patriarchal society. “Therefore, fighting for the side the society would…

Deconstructing and Reassessing Educational Issues Confronting the Boychild

By: Emmanuel Olaoluwa. Image Credit: Ray’s Photography (For Boys Without Borders) Much, if not all, of the world’s focus on tackling the problematic educational exclusion has been emphatically structured solely around the girl-child, to the neglect of her male counterpart. By educational exclusion, I technically refer to the rampant, perhaps most prominent, challenge of education in the…

The Different Faces of Vice: Why the Boy-child Engages in Social Ills

By: Abdul Habeeb Akorede. In recent times, literature have addressed the possible impacts of societal views on the boy-child; how expectations force him into a life of crime or, at the very least, defiance. But few have tried to analyse whether expectations are all it takes to send him downhill. While the boy-child may be…

Drug Addiction and the Boy-child: Where we stand as a Society

By: Olamilekan Mashika Image Credit: iStockphotos In the world we live, there are many reasons why people search for ways to feel better. To some, the need to wash away the constant lack of love, to others, they need to relieve stress. Many, indeed, just want to be happy throughout their lifetime but the universe…

SO YOU DIDN’T EVEN HAVE PENETRATIVE SEX? – Anonymous 007

When I was about 6, my older male cousin introduced me to the concept of making out with the same gender. That might’ve been when I got my first erection. No penetrative sex. Then, when I was between the ages of 8 & 9 the female house help also took me a bit further. I…

Let’s Talk About It: The Sexual Abuse of the Boy-child (Part 2)

Perhaps we must reiterate that the default thought of most on the notion of sexual abuse is centred on the female gender with little or no care towards the male gender. People think that male victims of sexual abuse enjoy the act of being abused, thus it is not really considered an abuse. To put…

Let’s Talk About It: The Sexual Abuse of the Boy-child (Part 1)

In the eyes of the average man, ‘sexual abuse’ as a term was created for a single gender. It rarely extends to accommodate male victims. We live in a society that has turned its back towards the slightest of all inklings that the boy-child or male gender can be a victim of sexual harassment. Today, in…

Sow the Seed!

By: Ayodele Priscilla Image Credit: Colourbox Once, my sister and I went to the market with our little brother, to buy him some things. After selecting some pairs of boxers and pants at a particular shop, I was about to pay when the shop owner faced my brother and asked why he’s allowing women to…

Toxic Masculinity?

By: Solomon Idowu Image Credit: Stephen Whitehead Having written an article on the “negative” tenets of masculinity in the first article released by this publication, I have had instances where that stance has been challenged, critiqued and ultimately laid bare. This has been done through reading, informing myself, listening to others speak and a deep retrospection/introspection…

When All Here Has Been Done: What Shall Be Said of Our Deeds and Experience?

The BWB NG Team at the Loyola College Outreach (Image by Ray’s Photgraphy) It’s often said that it’s through deeds that you put any one person to the test. If deeds were absent, there would be no laid down parameters to judge the level of truthfulness of any claimed ability or capability. The absence of…

The International Day of the Boychild: The Boy, His Troubles, and Our Initiative

By: Habeeb Abdul Image credit: BMAN This year, 2021, will mark the fourth year since the celebration of the Boy Child began. To individuals across sociocultural spheres, an International Day of the Boy Child may appear another cross-continental oddity. To others, its observation is a cause to sigh in deep relief. But this will likely…

Male Privilege: What Exactly Is It?

By: Adefokun Jucal Image Credit: Dreamstime.com First, it would be helpful to define what the term “male privilege” is. In layman’s terms, male privilege is simply the perceived idea that men have greater access to social, economic, and political advantages or rights based on their sex. Granted, women as people go through challenges. Still, the concept…

Culture and its Importance towards Raising Functional Men

By: IyanuOluwa Fagbiye Image credit: Shutterstock Culture, from an anthropological lens, is dynamic; not static but ever changing. This change could only occur through contact with another culture. Hence, making cultural traits embedded in various cultures is a major element of culture comparison. Culture, as defined by the renowned anthropologist, Edward Burnett Tylor, is that…

Married Unconsciously: How Society Encourages Sexual Harassment

By: Olamilekan Mashika Image Credit: Business Day NG One of the questions that brought about this piece is how society reacts to harassment. And when it happens, how it sides with the victim and condemns the perpetrators. The irony in this is its double-edged nature. The same society sometimes sides with the perpetrators and shames…

The Boychild; Transitioning Alone

By; Amifel Eribo Image Credit: www.cherwell.org “Oh Folakemi, look how big you are now! How old are you?” “13, Ma” “Ah, you must be very careful now o!” “You must not let any boy touch you” “You must always keep clean” “You must always dress decently” “You must… you must….” There’s no doubt that every…

House Chores: Societal Perceptions and the Boychild

By: Theophilus Femi Alawonde Photo Credit: A boy washing his clothes (Image Credit: www.dreamstime.com) When I was very much younger, one of the things that my mum used to pride herself in was that she had no bias for her boys when it came to house chores. She would say this every opportunity she got —…

Masculinity and the Boychild

By: Solomon Idowu Image Credit: Bill Wegene from Unsplash “Ade, be a man! Why are you crying?” “Abdul, chin up! Men don’t cry, so they say.” “Obi, if your friend hits you, make sure you hit him back; you have to show him you’re a man! “Don’t take no for an answer.” At one point…