BTAI stands for Boys Talk About It. It is an annual project undergone to create societal awareness of the realities of Boy-Child Sexual Abuse. The stories you will be reading are anonymously shared with us by real people, detailing real experiences.
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I’m a male, and I’m a porn addict and a chronic masturbator. I was around 8 years old when I was exposed to pornography by my father, though not intentionally. It was on nights, when he thought I’d slept but unknowingly to him, I was wide awake.
Initially, I couldn’t understand what I was seeing because it was absurd, but I could feel that my body was changing. I felt maybe it was because of the utter nakedness of a man and a woman I was seeing but then I understood everything overtime, and that incident left a permanent footprint in my brain.
As I grew up, my little mind kept nurturing the images I saw back then. Growing up and with access to the Internet, I tried to explore what I saw back then. I truly want to know if it was all real and not just a déjà vu. Then I stumbled on some website where I could access millions of porn videos. I became addicted to watching it, especially when I am stressed up or alone.
This later led me to self-taught masturbation, and now I have become so addicted. I feel a weight of guilt every time I perpetrate this act, but I can’t help it.
Over time now, I don’t even feel any guilt doing it again. I’ve never have sex with anyone before, and I promised myself that, no matter how worse my situation maybe, I’d rather masturbate. Even though because of my porn addiction, my sexuality had suffers so immensely for it, I don’t feel sexually driven for things which supposed to jolt sexual urge in normal people.
I just do think of how pure and unscathed my life would have been if I had not woken up that night. This happened over some weeks when I was 8, I am 21 now and suffer from psychological unrest.
PS: I have never shared this story with anyone, and I opened up because this is an anonymous setting. I love my father and I understood it wasn’t all his fault overtime. But I just want to stop this, that’s why I speak up to relieve myself, and to let others know that, this society is biased against male sexual assault, even though mine is a psychological sexual assault.
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