Sexually abused by a nanny

“I Was Sexually Abused By My Neighbor’s Nanny” — Anonymous 006

Dear Survivor, we are sorry you had to go through all you went through during the abuse. We appreciate how courageous you are to have decided to share your story through us. Kindly drop your story here in detail. Thank you.
There’s not much to say though. I was sexually abused by my neighbor’s nanny. My nanny used to keep me at her place before going to the market each day to get stuff. She played with my private parts and sat on my face regularly while emitting foul-smelling gasses from her ass, she compelled me to touch her, and kissed me awkwardly in all manner of sexual abuses.
For how long did this sexual abuse occur or has been occurring?
I can’t remember when it started, but it lasted until I was 10.
How old are you?
In my twenties.
Have you ever told anyone or received help?
No
Who did you tell or what type of help did you receive?
No one
Have you noticed any physical or medical changes in your body as a result of the sexual abuse?
No.
What have been the emotional or psychological effects you’ve experienced as a result of the sexual abuse?
I can only enjoy being with women far older than me.
How do you feel after sharing your story with us?
Has the abuse affected you in a way you think you might need professional help and therapy?
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male child sexual molestation

“I Was Molested By Three People” — Anonymous 008

Dear Survivor, we are sorry you had to go through all you went through during the abuse. We appreciate how courageous you are to have decided to share your story with us. Kindly drop your story here in detail. Thank you.
I was actually molested thrice: once by a family member, once by the landlord’s son who was almost molesting my sister, and then once by a neighbor.
These people were all older than me. You know, growing up, with extended family members… My grand uncle’s daughter was almost putting my tiny penis into her vagina then. At each time she tried, nothing would happen. Instead, I would cry, and it happened twice so, my mom noticed the movements and started locking up my sister and me inside as she went to the market.
The second encounter was our landlord’s son who would drag me into the room and do the same thing until we left the area.
Then, the last one was the neighbor who always lured me into an uncompleted building where he had his way until I grew up to know that what he was doing is bad and I fought him. That was how I broke free from his manipulations.
I was almost rewriting those stories with other people if not for God’s interventions. I thank God I broke free from those influences because it affected my mental health as a young man growing up.
For how long did this sexual abuse occur or has been occurring?
It was concurrent.
How old are you?
26
Have you ever told anyone or received help?
Yes.
I told my friends.
Have you noticed any physical or medical changes in your body as a result of the sexual abuse?
No.
What have been the emotional or psychological effects you’ve experienced as a result of the sexual abuse?
I was always lusting after both genders, especially the guys.
How do you feel after sharing your story with us?
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“… I was told I was going to experience seizure each time I ejaculated” — Anonymous 004

A 13-year-old boy who was barely a man …Had a classmate who was a friend to a senior (girl) back then in secondary school. I was in JSS 3 at that time, while the senior was in SSS 2. She would always come to check on her friend and bring stuff for me while we were on break.

When I mean stuff, I mean goodies (biscuits, sweets, money and her food too). I wondered why she was so generous, although I wasn’t bothered (I mean, why would I even be, with all the stuff I was getting). Moving on, She introduced herself and said she’d like to be my school mother. Trust me, I couldn’t have said no. Wetin I even know then?

She said: “I would get everything you want me to get for you and wouldn’t like you rejecting ’em.” And I said yes. In fact, I happily said yes cause it meant I was going to be eating when I didn’t have pocket money, and every day, in as much she’s still in our school…

Days went by. Weeks too…Then, this very week that was our inter-house week, the whole students were representing their houses, and the classes were empty. No staff or students in them. Then came my classmate who told me Snr. Abigail was calling me and that I should walk towards the school toilet, she was there waiting. I gave a head gesture that I had heard.

Immediately I heard my name, “******! School son! Come over here!”

In excitement, I went to meet her, then boom! We were in the same bathroom together. My school mother’s friends (they were two) were standing just by the bathroom door with my classmate a little bit ahead of them.

She asked how I was. I had not even answered when a kiss followed. Believe me, that was the first time I ever kissed a girl. She took my fingers and put ’em in her PP. Stuff was wet and slimy. She began to moan, loosened my belt, took my trousers off, and began to rub my penis and kept it in her mouth. We were there for over 20 minutes if I can remember vividly.

Trust me, I released more than seven times, till I began to release blood. Lady drained the whole of me that day. Cause of the blood she saw, she stopped.

Having noticed that I was weak, they took me to my class where I lay my head to rest. When everyone was back to class, they noticed my absence and they were like: “where were you all through? Are you fine? Your house won” and all…

While they said all that, one of them noticed this awful odour and the smell of blood on me, and boom, they raised me up and saw how stained I was.

I was taken to the School Health Prefect, who happened to be one of the ladies that was standing outside the bathroom while myself and my school mother were in the bathroom.

They tried to cover the situation but they couldn’t cause I was unconscious and they had to take me to the hospital. The school authorities got to know what happened while I regained consciousness and they got all three students expelled.

To this day, I haven’t set my eyes on Abigail.

The stuff dealt with me physically, I would say. Along the line, I became less of myself. Had medical treatment and I was told that I was going to experience seizures each time I was going to ejaculate cause of the trauma it has caused me and the wrong way I ejaculated for the first time, and that with time the seizure was going to stop and if at all it comes that as I grow up, I would be able to control it.

Yes, I’ve been having seizures during sex and in my early 20s I’m still controlling it. The situation has really made me hate sex (cause it’s a bag of embarrassment each time it happens) and my relationship with ladies gets broken cause each time we’re kissing they tend to want to forge ahead and I restrict them.

In fact, they conclude that I’m impotent (as foolish as it might sound, just to prove to them that I am not, I end up letting us have it). Trust me, I’ve never enjoyed sex. Never!

Each time I get to hear about marriage, I have this phobia cause how do I end up being with a woman my whole life with such disgust for sex? It’s a story I hate to remember.

This situation causes me to have ASD too (Acute Stress Disorder).

Not even my closest friends know about it. But as I grew up, and with the better understanding I was getting, I needed to let it out.

Are you a survivor of a similar sexual abuse or any other form of sexual abuse? You can share your story with us for Project Boys Talk About It 4.0 via the link below:

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I Was Terribly Sexually Abused by my Step Sister and her Friend – Anonymous 010

BTAI stands for Boys Talk About It. It is an annual project undergone to create societal awareness of the realities of Boy-Child Sexual Abuse. The stories you will be reading are anonymously shared with us by real people, detailing real experiences.

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I don’t know why people will doubt these stories. If I tell you mine, you probably not believe it. It’s the reason why when you see some men who are very loose, nobody ever thinks their childhood were toyed with by a pervert.

I may not say my full story now but I was terribly abused by my step sister and her friend. These two ladies took my innocence about the age of 5.

Terrible thing I have forgiven but can’t forget. Hunted me for years, slept with virtually anything in skirt thereafter, as a young man, my mind was always thinking sex when I see any lady.

And don’t be surprised my mind still wonders now even though I’m married and a pastor.

I PROTECT MY BOY LIKE VOLTRON. One day a lady put him on her laps, I watched them very closely to ensure nothing was happening and warned him after never to sit on the laps of any lady no matter who she is.

It’s a terrible thing, don’t be surprised more boys are been abused than young girls are. ITS CRAZY!

Not trying to justify acts that are not good but when you see a man who is very loose, chances he was abused as a young boy is 98%.

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St. Patrick’s Grammar School Outreach

Here’s pictures of Boys Without Borders doing what we do best at St. Patrick’s Grammar School Orita-Bashorun, Ibadan, impacting the lives of young boys. On Wednesday 19th of May 2022 we spoke to the boys on topics like Sexual Abuse and Consent, Drug addiction, Peer Pressure among others. In line with our objectives, this visit was also in commemoration of The International Day of The Boy Child, which took place on Monday, 16th of May 2022.

 

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