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Since then, It Became an Addiction – Anonymous 13

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I was 6 years old when my dad had surgery on his stomach. We were forced to move out of our apartment then to the mission house of the church we were attending then, mum had to hustle and dad had to go to work. Every time I come back from school, I have to stay with the senior pastor’s daughter, who I guess was an older teenager then.

One day she called me into the house with my friend whose parents also stayed in the other part of the mission house. She instructed us on what to do and how to smooch and suck her, we were naive but we did as instructed. Since then, it has become an addiction. Well, the first person I tried it on was my friend’s elder sister, then my seatmate in school. Apparently, it was a norm in that environment because everyone seems to be doing it both young and old.

This led me into masturbation at an early age and I began to chase girls as a teenager in the house we were living in. Unfortunately, we were living in a face me I face you apartment (we moved out of the mission house some years later). This is my own story.

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She Grabbed my Trouser from the Belt – Anonymous 012

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I was a young Evangelist, vibrant as fire. I had started pastoring from SS1, I have become a known preacher both in school and at home. I consecrated myself well and was used by God mightily.

One holiday. I was invited by a Redeemed Church for a week long program. It was a galore of the supernatural, I had accurate word of knowledge that shocked the church.

Every day the population kept increasing. The morning hours where for counselling. Imagine an 18 years boy commanding such attention.

One of the days a lady married with a baby came to me for counselling. She came with questions I could not answer. She asked me if one can marry a wrong will of God. I was wondering. Wrong will of God? How can the will of God be wrong?

Long story short, she said I was the right will of God for her. I could not understand. She was about 15years older than me.

That session ended. A week later I was riding on a bike to see a friend, I saw her and she wave me down and asked for a lift. I stop and pick her. She was going to her office, as we were going she told me that she is not even wearing pant. I still could even understand all that. I took her to her office and left.

Another week she came with her elder sister who was a lecturer to ask me for a favour. She said she had a spiritual problem in her house where the husband rented for her. That her baby is no longer sleeping well and thus not feeling fine. She said she woke up one night and saw a maggot by the baby side then when she killed it and it was all full of blood and that I should come and assist her in praying for the house and in fact she want to pack her things from there.

I quickly agreed with the zeal burning in me. We fixed an evening. That meeting day I came in with my motor cycle got to her house she was seating outside. We opened the door and the two of us went in.

I told her that we should pray at the siting room but she said no that the thing happened in the room. We should please go into the room where it happened. I accepted while we entered the room it was a jam lock she jam it and throw the key away through the window. She grabbed my trouser from the belt to untie my belt.

Something came over me. I believe it was God and I began laughing loud and blow air from my mouth into her face and she fell down as I walked to the door and the door opened and I went out took my bike and ran away.

I was almost abused sexually that day. I can say I was abused too sexually. This is just one out of the three sexual abuse that happened to me.

The last lady, 3 years older than me got me. I will share how that happened some other time.

PS: Today I’m a renowned Reverend. I have forgiven my abusers but I’m just sharing to inspire someone

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She Asked Me If I Enjoyed It – Anonymous 011

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It’s with mixed feelings that I’d share my own experience. It started when I was just 9+ years in 1999. My mum was a trader who sold clothes at the market then and my dad was a civil servant working with NITEL.

During this period, mum was never around during the day, and dad was usually in morning or afternoon shift. When we returned from school, myself, my brother and sister, we were usually left in the house alone. Our landlord’s son, much older than us would call me, (my brother wouldn’t come) with a neighbour’s son also about my age then, and bring us into their parlour where they’d be watching porn.

At first, I was uneasy but with time I got used to it. The boy would ask me to strip down and he’d start fiddling with my privates, he’d do the same for our neighbour’s son too, then he’d buy us snacks and threaten us not to tell anyone.

This went on for some weeks until one day the boy’s sister caught us red handed. She didn’t even pretend to be shocked. She just joined us by asking me to sit on her lap. She placed my hands on her breasts and asked me to play with them. It felt awkward, so I requested that she let me leave. Well, it must have been almost a month after when she called me and asked me to buy her biscuits and bring it to her room. I obliged and that was the day I lost my virginity. When she was through she asked me if I enjoyed it, but I didn’t even know if I did.

This kept on for a whole year. And the same thing repeated itself with my older cousin the next year when my dad took me to the village. I ended up seducing and molesting a number of girls on my own. On one occasion, I even molested a boy! My mum caught us in the act, and she sent me to church for deliverance! (Btw, I’m not gay sha).

To be honest, I grew up with this deficiency in my mind shaping my opinion and philosophy about girls and sex. But I thank God.

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I Was Terribly Sexually Abused by my Step Sister and her Friend – Anonymous 010

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I don’t know why people will doubt these stories. If I tell you mine, you probably not believe it. It’s the reason why when you see some men who are very loose, nobody ever thinks their childhood were toyed with by a pervert.

I may not say my full story now but I was terribly abused by my step sister and her friend. These two ladies took my innocence about the age of 5.

Terrible thing I have forgiven but can’t forget. Hunted me for years, slept with virtually anything in skirt thereafter, as a young man, my mind was always thinking sex when I see any lady.

And don’t be surprised my mind still wonders now even though I’m married and a pastor.

I PROTECT MY BOY LIKE VOLTRON. One day a lady put him on her laps, I watched them very closely to ensure nothing was happening and warned him after never to sit on the laps of any lady no matter who she is.

It’s a terrible thing, don’t be surprised more boys are been abused than young girls are. ITS CRAZY!

Not trying to justify acts that are not good but when you see a man who is very loose, chances he was abused as a young boy is 98%.

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Aunty Kike Sexually Molested Me – Anonymous 009

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Her name is Aunt Kike, a family friend. She came to stay in our house because she was living a wayward kind of life and my mum was a disciplinarian. So her mum brought her to my mum to instil some discipline into the girl.

Aunty Kike sexually molested me. She’ll force me to suck her breast and vagina and threatened to cut off my little penis if I dare tell anyone. This went on for 2years before she finally left our house. I have forgiven her sha.

But I can never forget. How it all acted out is still fresh in my memory. I usually cry every night. I lost appetite for food. She would beat me like a mad person any day I didn’t satisfy her sexual urge. I suffered if I refuse to suck her well or make her climax, that day would be terrible for me.

She’ll beat me. And still lie to daddy that I went to play outside the house. And daddy hates it when we play. He’s so strict and wicked back then. All he was after was for us to study our books. That’s all. She’ll practically place a knife on my penis threatening me that I must not tell or she’ll cut my penis off and cook. I was 7.

I got used to it. Although I didn’t understand what it was, but I got used to satisfying her.

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We Sexually Abused Many Till We Reached SS3 – Anonymous 008

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I entered the boarding house at age 9. I was in JSS1, a popular boy’s only school. The seniors will call the small boys to come rub their chest and penis before they sleep, sometimes we’ll lick till we were tired, they sleep off, or they reach climax Due to light out, sometimes they will come throw their weight on us in the middle of the night, and we don’t dare question them asking for stupid stuffs. I remember those dirty smelling mouths kissing me.

At some point I kept a table knife, I wanted to stab one senior, he was always rough, weighty with muscles, he was lucky he didn’t come that night. Homosexuality became a thing, seniors prey on fine young boys as school sons to pass their sexual desire.  They force every student to masturbation to confirm you now have sperms. It was a day of rejoicing when mine finally came in JSS3.

The abused mates now paired up to find homosexual partners doing best friends, they force you to play and they enjoy watching, I suffered more because they say my hands were soft, an angry friend nearly cut off a seniors penis with his teeth, but he suffered the worst beating of his life. We don’t dare tell anyone.

Masturbation became a habit and having desire for boys. We abused many till we reached SS3. It became a cycle. I feel so sad to remember. The psychological effect of masturbation is still hard to let go even after being married with kids.

I hate to remember my mum dropped me off at that boarding house in the hands of those wicked seniors at 9years old.

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I was raped at Age 13 and became a Father at Age 14 – Anonymous 007

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I was 13, in SS1. I was smart enough for my age but naive to things of the opposite sex. All I ever knew about sex then was what I was taught in Home-Economics and Biology. And maybe when some bold boys in my class discuss their crushes and girlfriends.

I have a brother, who has a girlfriend back then. She would come to our house whenever he’s back from school. He was in UNILAG as at that time. I didn’t even care about what they do as they would either sent me to buy drinks, biscuits or fried sweet potatoes from main road. Dad was a Sailor (now retired), he’s never home. Mom is a Nurse at LUTH. Most times, I’m always home alone as my immediate elder sister was in the boarding school.

So, that day; Aunty came and my brother just left for Lagos abruptly. And then she entered and I followed her into the sitting room. She’s no more a visitor in our house. Even Mom knew she was dating my brother. I gave her water and I was happy she was around to keep my company as Mom was on afternoon duty. That’s how Aunty came to sit close to me and showed me a magazine with erotic pictures on the pages.

At a point, I started feeling uneasy. She moved closer and started drawing her gown up. I told her she can start going but she said no. Then she stood up and headed into my brother’s room, my greatest mistake was following her. When I entered, she closed the door and pushed me to the bed. I nearly hit my head on the wall. She didn’t mind.

Before I could say Jack, she’d removed my shorts and was on me. She used one hand to pin me down on the bed and I was almost suffocating. To be honest, I didn’t understand what she was doing. She sat on me and started going back and forth riding my small penis. I screamed and shouted but there was no one near to save me.

When she’s done, I was fagged out. She wore her pants, draw her gown down and left me breathing hard. I was angry, I decided to tell Mom but she didn’t return that night and I had to go sleep at our pastor’s house as I normally do whenever she’s having a double shift.

I was so moody for weeks until I told my friend in school and he said she raped me. Aunty didn’t come to our house until 3 months later when she said my brother impregnated her. My brother denied the Pregnancy, then she said the pregnancy was mine. Mom was mad.

She informed Dad about what happened after I’d narrated what happened to her. She arrested the lady’s Mom as she was claiming my brother and I gang raped her.

To cut the story short, she delivered the baby and the boy was my carbon copy o. Her Mom brought the baby to our house and Dad told Mom to accept him.

That’s how I was raped at age 13 and became a father at age 14. The boy will be 15 by December.

It took God and time to love him and accept him as my child. This should inspire someone. Boys face sexual abuse too.

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I Find Intimacy With Women Difficult – Anonymous 006

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I was sexually molested by a young woman/older teenager. I can’t remember her exact age at the time but it was nearer to 18. I myself was 5-6 at the time of the molestation. What she would do whenever we were alone was that she’d try to achieve penetrative sex with me. So this included getting me to take off my clothes and touching me in ways that I’m sure was to try and give me an erection. I remember distinctly that she used bullying tactics to make me do what she wanted.

Because of her molestation, I started to poop my pants. I began pooping my pants again at the age of five, this upset my mother. So I got the habit of ‘holding it in’ to the point that I developed a mega colon and dealt with terribly painful constipation and passing of hard, large stools. I’m sure this was a direct result of the molestation. So my underpants had marks in them, and I was very embarrassed to take them off where she could see them. It hurt especially because otherwise, she was one of my few friends. We would play Nintendo together and such, but she also did the molestation stuff as well.

It went on for a few months I think. I told a therapist, my parents, and an aunt. I got therapy for the attack about twenty years after it happened. My father thought it was funny. I haven’t dated or seen women for almost the entirety of my life. I find intimacy with women difficult and I am terrified of talking to women in romantic ways. My relationship with women (romantically) feels devastated and I’m not sure I’ll ever be married or have kids. It’s very upsetting.

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It occurred twice in my third year – Anonymous 005

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My school mother called me to the SSS3 block after dinner that day and told me to take off my clothes, threatening to tell her boyfriend to beat me if I refused. She went on to sit on me and did things to me. I dropped out of boarding school a term after that.

It occurred twice in my third year. As a result of the abuse, I suffer from erotophobia.

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Now I have Become so Addicted – Anonymous 004

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I’m a male, and I’m a porn addict and a chronic masturbator. I was around 8 years old when I was exposed to pornography by my father, though not intentionally. It was on nights, when he thought I’d slept but unknowingly to him, I was wide awake. 

Initially, I couldn’t understand what I was seeing because it was absurd, but I could feel that my body was changing. I felt maybe it was because of the utter nakedness of a man and a woman I was seeing but then I understood everything overtime, and that incident left a permanent footprint in my brain. 

As I grew up, my little mind kept nurturing the images I saw back then. Growing up and with access to the Internet, I tried to explore what I saw back then. I truly want to know if it was all real and not just a déjà vu. Then I stumbled on some website where I could access millions of porn videos. I became addicted to watching it, especially when I am stressed up or alone.

This later led me to self-taught masturbation, and now I have become so addicted. I feel a weight of guilt every time I perpetrate this act, but I can’t help it. 

Over time now, I don’t even feel any guilt doing it again. I’ve never have sex with anyone before, and I promised myself that, no matter how worse my situation maybe, I’d rather masturbate. Even though because of my porn addiction, my sexuality had suffers so immensely for it, I don’t feel sexually driven for things which supposed to jolt sexual urge in normal people.

 I just do think of how pure and unscathed my life would have been if I had not woken up that night. This happened over some weeks when I was 8, I am 21 now and suffer from psychological unrest.

PS: I have never shared this story with anyone, and I opened up because this is an anonymous setting. I love my father and I understood it wasn’t all his fault overtime. But I just want to stop this, that’s why I speak up to relieve myself, and to let others know that, this society is biased against male sexual assault, even though mine is a psychological sexual assault.

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